What are sex counseling and sex coaching, and how are they different from 'regular' counseling?

Sex counseling differs from other forms of counseling and therapy in so far as it pinpoints one or more aspects of our infinite sexualities and strives to make those parts better. Through sex counseling, we will look at your sexual issues from now forward. Clients who need past issues resolved should see a therapist in conjunction with my visits or before seeing me. Most of my clients have seen a therapist for a variety of issues, and it is those therapists who then say, "Eric, my client is ready to move on to you for your advice on celebrating their sexuality." Because my goal is to move people in and out of my appointment book as fast as possible (so they can be happier, healthier sexual beings sooner), sex counseling contrasts with other modes of sex therapy, in that it is not long term.

Sex coaching is just that: I train people to have better sex than they are having now. Through the use of homework (more fun than high school home work!), readings, some basic, intermediate, and advanced sexuality education via discussion and DVD, you will become a sexual athlete, making you and your partner(s) feel happier in the bedroom (and beyond) and more fulfilled.

So will you or I be unclothed? Is touch part of the process, as it is with sex surrogates?

Sex counseling and sex coaching are not to be confused with the more controversial practice of sexual surrogacy. I operate under the AASECT Code of Ethics which prohibits any sexual contact or nudity (partial or full) between client and provider. To learn more, please contact me with your questions and concerns.

What motivates people to seek sex counseling or sex coaching?

People come into sex counseling for many reasons. Some need to respond to unexpected changes in their lives, while others seek self-exploration and personal growth. Some of my clients are looking for permission to be themselves. Sex counseling provides support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping for issues in all the areas I discuss on this website. People seeking sex counseling are willing to take responsibility for their actions, to work towards self-change, and to create greater awareness as sexual beings. 

What can I expect in a session? 

During our fifty minute sessions, I expect you to talk about the primary concerns and issues in your current sex life. By the way, I have many clients in a variety of industries who require longer sessions. Regardless of the duration, weekly sessions produce the best results. 

Between sessions, I will give you homework. It will also help you, if you think about and process what we discussed. You must be an active participant, both in and outside of the sex counseling sessions.

What benefits can I expect from working with a sex counselor and coach?

A number of benefits are available from participating in sex counseling. Many of my clients feel relieved, knowing that someone understands. Sex counseling can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. Many people find sex counseling to be a tremendous asset, not only in the bedroom or on a date, but it also profits their interpersonal relationships, family life, and daily life. The paybacks you obtain from sex counseling depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what I teach you. Some of the benefits available from therapy include:

• Developing skills for improving sex and relationships
• Finding resolution to the issues or concerns that led you to seek sex counseling
• Discovering new ways to cope with stress and anxiety around sexual issues
• Enhancing communications skills - learn how to listen to others, and have
• Getting "unstuck" from unhealthy patterns - breaking old behaviors and develop new ones
• Discovering new ways to solve your own sex and relationship problems
• Improving your self-esteem and boosting self-confidence
• Celebrating your life as a sexual being

What if I don't know what my sex counseling goals are?

It is natural not to know your sex counseling goals, and it might take several sessions before you see a path. Keep in mind too that during the course of sex counseling, your goals may change. However, establishing a direction for our sessions - and sticking to that course - will help you get the most out of the experience.

Is sex counseling and coaching confidential?

In general, the law protects the confidentiality of all communications between a client and a sex counselor. I do not disclose information without your written permission. However, there are number of exceptions to this rule:

• If a client is threatening serious bodily harm to another person/s. I must notify the police and inform the intended victim. This is bodily harm outside of a consensual BDSM scene. 

• If a client intends to harm himself or herself. I will make every effort to enlist your cooperation for your own good. If you do not cooperate, I may take further measures - without your permission, to ensure your safety.      

• Suspected child abuse or dependant adult or elder abuse. The law requires me to report this to the appropriate authorities.